Even the language of pop pyschology betrays us. We are told that the most important thing is to take care of yourself. The secret to personal well-being is that you must love yourself. Everything begins with you. “You can’t love anyone else until you love yourself” is the mantra we are invited to embrace. We are given professional permission to put ourselves above everyone and everything else. In this screnario love is all about consumption. You’ve got to take what you need before you can give. The belief is that once you’ve taken enough, you’ll be satisfied and being to give to others.
Yet the reality is very different from this scenario. When we are broken, there’s never enough. When we are emotionally fragmented, we leak. No matter howmuch we consume, how much we take for ourselves, we always find ourselves empty in the end. This in turn leaves you only more frustrated and embittered. You stop believing that what you are searching for is really out there. And how can you give what you don’t have enough of? Or why would you give something that has left you unsatisfied and unfulfilled? –Erwin McManus, Uprising
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